I was feeling particularly overwhelmed last Friday. Juggling the different things that needed to get done, trying to put on all my different hats...photographer, wife, mom, church planter....when my sister texted me. Oh, how I love her. Amidst my chaos, stress to get things done, and inner turmoil about not doing any of my roles to par, she sent me this excerpt from a book she was reading, For the Love by Jen Hatmaker:
"Balance. It's like a unicorn; we've heard about it, everyone talks about it and makes airbrushed tshirts celebrating it, it seems super rad, but we haven't actually seen it. I'm beginning to think it isn't a thing. (...)
Listen to me: No one can pull this off. No one is pulling this off. The women who seem to ride this unicorn only display the best parts of their stories. Trust me. No one can fragment her time and attention into this many segments."
I've been asking several of my mentors for years, "How do you achieve balance in your life?" These incredibly wise women have given me various answers, but basically, they all sum up to: "I don't really know." Which I'm not sure if I've found depressing, or incredibly comforting. Probably a little bit of both.
As people, women and moms in particular, we place a lot of pressure on ourselves. And in the age of Pinterest and social media, we've upped the bar. We create a psuedo perfect blog pinned facebooktastic life that doesn't actually exist in the real world.
So, here I am today, feeling the strain of all the hats again. Feeling that I can do one thing well, while about 99 others suffer. But I'm comforted knowing that I'm not alone. And that this is the journey I'm on. To accept what today is, with gratitude, and let go of the perfect balance. And to give myself grace.
So today I'm chucking balance out the window. At least the pressure of it. I'm tucking my guilt for the undone checklist away, and I'm going to try and be present. Present to whats in front of me. The beautiful, the hard, the sweet, the mundane, the people that I love. I'm going to try and turn off my racing brain and let go of the unicorn.
I'm giving myself grace and a balance hall pass for the weekend. Want to join me?
Lots of grace and love to you this weekend! xo, Vanessa